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The gift of solitude

11:42 PM / Posted by Lloyd / comments (2)



Before we come straight to the point of today’s gift, here's a cartoon(above) from http://www.christiancartoons.com/index.htm

The gift of solitude

There are times when we want nothing better then to be left alone. Be sensitive to those times and give the gift of solitude to others.

What I will be talking in this article today is mainly the gift of solitude. In fact, in the previous paragraph, I have already given it a summary.

So, for the past few days, I’ve been talking about how you can extend your helping hand to another person be it by being a listening ear, by giving some words of comfort etc. however today, the gift I’m talking about is of a different approach.

Why is that so? Because instead of being there for someone literally, having this gift of solitude requires us to sometimes, leave that person alone yet being there for the person anytime when he/she needs it. In other words, when it’s obvious she/he needs some alone time, give it to him/her but when he/she needs some listening ear, then carry on to give it to him/her.

And well, just some side-track, if you’re going to be a friend to someone, be a good friend. Don’t be some friend who sours relation. Be a friend who’s willing to help in whatever situation. Be a good friend.

Therefore, remember that sometimes, comforting words or listening ear are not what you can offer to people when they’re in trouble. Sometimes, what they need is just to be alone to think through what has happened.

To be sensitive to when they need such moments, place yourself in their shoes. What will you be asking for?

The gift of a written note

5:38 PM / Posted by Lloyd / comments (0)

The gift of a written note

Well, it’s the 4thgift so far. And today, what I will be talking about will be the gift of a written note.

The note I’m referring here are not those long and sophisticated notes. The notes I’m referring are those notes which are short and sweet. Notes like, “hey job well done earlier on” or “know what, thanks so much for helping me”.

You never know. Just a single note can actually change a person’s entire life. I remember when I started out as a Christian, my best friend who was then just my any other friend used to write notes for me. If I may, notes which are just plain notes with if I may again, very little sincerity. But as the years go by, we became the best of friends and the notes too, became even more motivational for me in a way and one of which changed the course of my life.

Well, the point I’m driving at is that, when you decide to take your pen and write a note for someone, do it out of pure concern for that person and not for the sake for writing a note. The receiver will definitely note the difference and that will not be very pleasant.

Here’s another quote, the gift of a written note, it could be long and pleasant or short and sweet but nevertheless, it may also change the life of the person who receive it.

Before I end of this entry, if you have been reading the earlier posts, I’ve covered how to make someone’s day and even today, I’m also talking about how to make someone’s day with the help of a written note. And I guess, you may ask how does that benefit me? Well, I will be touching on that tomorrow so stay tune! (:

Questions any? The gift of asking and answering.

1:33 PM / Posted by Lloyd / comments (0)

Questions any? The gift of asking and answering.
So like I mentioned yesterday, today’s gift is somehow related to the gift of listening. And for yesterday it was mainly being a listening ear to people who need it. However, today, we are going to go into a step further, being a listening ear, watchful pair of eyes for others when they want it.

Have you ever felt, totally discouraged before? In a sense you actually got top 10 in your school for a certain exam and here comes your parents instead of saying, “well done son!” said things like, “why didn’t you win Thomas?” or maybe, in another sense, you went an extra mile for a friend yet instead of him/her thanking you, he/she just said nothing or worse, don’t appreciate it at all.

Today, we will be talking on the gift of asking and answering. A&A. I believe that if we force ourselves to do it, this gift of A&A will sooner or later be part of us. Here, I am not teaching you on how to respond to such acts but rather, I will be telling you how YOU can avoid being like these in the future, or even taking it as a reminder if you already aren’t such kind of people.
So how does A&A help? The first A, Asking, is a way to show concern for others and I mean, who doesn’t want concern. You could be a parent already, a teacher, a student like me, or even a very good friend to someone. ASK. Ask how their day was? When eating with them, ASK if they would like some serving from your dish (before you start on it that is). When you see a big smile on their face, ASK what made their day. But of course, don’t ask for the sake of asking. Ask for the sake of concern.

The next A, answering, refers to answering to comments and not question. And of course, always give the right answer and not the wrong one. Taking the example I made earlier on, the one in which a kid gets top 10 in a certain school examination and got a bad remark from his parents instead of a good one. This example clearly shows that this kid parents have forgotten to answer correctly. And well, you and I should also avoid on doing such things. Say, when a friend gets some pretty good achievement, never go up to him/her and spoil his/her day. Instead say something nice, make his/her day even brighter. So if you got no “answer”, don’t make one. Don’t go around spoiling the days of others.

I believe this quote will be familiar but just a reminder for all. If you got nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all. Or at the very least, think before you give your answer to a comment.

Gift number 2, an unexpected one

1:58 PM / Posted by Lloyd / comments (0)

Gift number 2, an unexpected one.
The gift of listening.

Alright, here’s gift number 2, the gift of listening. Yesterday, I mentioned about in-built gift and likewise, this gift I’m talking about today, is also an in-built gift. And today I’m going to talk about why this gift is considered a gift first, then talk about in fact, you my dear readers actually already posses this gift but have not come to realize how to use it.

So why is listening to someone a gift? A gift is a talent, endowment, aptitude, or inclination. And being able to listen or rather listen attentively is a talent. You see, when someone wants to pour his/her heart out, he/she will always find someone who has a listening ear. No one wants to pour his/her heart out to someone who always shuts his/her ear but not his/her mouth, it will only make things worse.

So you see what I’m driving at? This gift of listening is like a talent, but instead of saying not everyone has it, I would like to rephrase to, everyone has it, but not everyone knows how to use it.

That jumps to my second point, why is it that not everyone knows how to use it. Simple, because by human nature, we like to interrupt whenever someone is talking to us and that someone may be our parents, friends or even teacher. Yet however, the gift of listening requires us to REALLY listening. Just plain listening, no interrupting, no daydreaming, no planning your respond. Just listening. This also means, you don’t have to try to come up with a solution for their problem. What they need most right now, is a pair of listening ears and not solution. Solution will definitely come later on after the sharing.

Therefore, learn to use this gift. Listen and just listen. For the third gift which will be up tomorrow, it will be linked to the gift I talked about today. Stay tuned!(:

the 7 gifts

12:38 PM / Posted by Lloyd / comments (0)

The 7 Gifts

Before I start on what I’m going to write today, the first post of this blog has no relevance to Christianity, in fact it should be under media. So, if you ever wonder why the first post is that post, it is due to the fact that this blog was meant to be a blog on media but I’m changing it to Christianity now.

Galatians 5:22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faith-fullness, gentleness and self-control.

I believe that the first thing that comes to your mind is, why are that 9 properties when this entry is titled, the 7 gifts. Alright, here’s the idea. These 9 properties are only counted as 1 gift. And for the next 6 days, I will be talking about the next 6 gifts. That sums up the 7 gifts!

So, why is it that these 9 properties are only counted as 1 gift? Firstly, if you look at the English of this verse, it stated the fruit of the Spirit and not fruit(S) of the spirit. That itself justify these 9 properties as one. In fact, all these 9 properties are all linked. Without love, how is it that you can be patience to someone? Without kindness, how is it that there can be goodness. I’m sure this point of mine is weak at first glance, but give it some thought. I’m sure after that, you will understand what I’m trying to say.

That’s not all. What I just explained is mainly the second word of the title of this entry, Seven.

But, how is it that having the fruit of the Spirit is a gift? If I may, Richard Templar in his book, The Rules of Life have wrote about many rules regarding personal life and some of the rules such as [be the last to raise your voice] requires patience, love, self-control. What I’m trying to say here is simple. This gift I’m talking about today is an in-built gift, a gift that shapes you into a better person or if you are a believer like me, a better Christian.

A gift doesn’t necessarily be in a form of material. But I believe the greatest gift is what is unseen. After all, I believe that the gift that makes the rich today rich isn’t the million dollars they have but they motivation and drive to earn that million.

So moving on, the second gift like I mentioned earlier on in this blog will be posted tomorrow so do check it out. Until then, bye!

The first post

12:47 AM / Posted by Lloyd / comments (2)

Alright here's some brief introduction before i start out on this blog.
I'm Lloyd here, 18 this year studying over at Tampines JC.
This blog mainly revolves around the theme, media so if want to update yourself more on the media world, or are interested in the media news or even interested in purchasing some cds, here's the right place for you.

First off, here's an Asian artist, Genie Zhou.
Genie Zhuo was born in Taiwan on January 20, 1986, and has a brother. When she was a first year in the Taipei County Fuho Junior High School, she won several karaoke competitions. After a number of lessons and training for singing, her debut as a singer was determined.
After graduated from the Hua Kang Art School, she continued recording, and she has been active in some TV dramas in Taiwan including the 2007 drama, Romantic Princess, in which she is starred as Gong Mo Li. She also played the role in a 2006 Taiwanese movie, Do Over (一年之初). For more information, head on to http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Genie_Zhuo.

And also, my friend had recently got back from Taiwan and got an album of Genie Zhou, signed! So if you are ever interested in buying this album from me, just drop me a comment on this post man! i will get back to you again (:




More information on this album titled, Be Used To 習慣.
My apologies for not typing in Chinese. Below are the tracks for this album however it is in hanyun pinin.

1) Super No. 1 -- Love Queen Opening Theme
2) Dui Ni De Ai
3) Liang Shan Bo Yu Zhu Li Ye(featuring Gary Cao) -- Love Queen Ending Theme
4) Dong Tian De Ju Zi
5) Chang Yi Xiu
6) Xing Fu Tiao Wei
7) Ke Yi Bu Ke Yi
8) Xiao Kong Jian Da Lian Ai
9) Wu Lu Mu Qi Xiao Nu Ren
10) Ai Wo Hao Ma

furthermore, there's also a bonus vcd featuring:

1. Liang Shan Bo Yu Zhu Li Ye
2. Xing Fu Tiao Wei
3. Dui Ni De Ai
4. Liang Shan Bo Yu Zhu Li Ye (REMIX)
5. Dong Tian De Ju Zi (REMIX)

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PSALMS 121:1-2

I life up my eyes to the hills- where does my help come from?My help comes from the Lord, the Maker of heaven and earth.